Happy New Year y’all. It’s been a while. I always take a break for the last two weeks or so of the year to reset, recharge and refocus. And think about my lifestyle resolutions for the year to come. I’m usually on vacation from my day job so I don’t do any work at this time- no creating content, taking hair clients… nothing. I take time to relax and just be still. Then I use the first week of the year to brainstorm and start planning out my editorial calendar for the first quarter. Honestly though, I’m still in relax mode. I’ve been conditioning myself to relax more as I’m ALWAYS working, and I’m simply tired. All of the time. That brings me to my 2020 Word of the Year- Balance.
Balance was my 2018 word. It probably would have been my word for the last 10 years before that if I had proclaimed one. It’s a constant struggle for me to find balance between being a mom and entrepreneur, my day job, having a social life and taking time for myself. No matter how much I try, the ratio in which I exert my energy to these areas of my life are always out of proportion. And my self care ends up taking the back seat. No more though. I’m taking a stand and making a vow to make my self care and needs a priority.
I actually started taking steps to achieve better self care last year by taking more breaks, and it helped a lot. You guys may have noticed that I post less often now. My goal is to post at least once a week. But sometimes I’m so busy and burned out that even that’s too much. I used to feel bad about posting less. However, my well being is more important. If I’m not 100%, then I can’t give 100% to my family or my work, including this blog. So I take my time and plan well thought out and informative content so that when I do post it’s worth your time. It may not be as often. But know that when I share content with you guys I’m giving it my all and not feeding you BS just to have something to post.
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Right behind self care, my social life has been heavily neglected. I used to be such a social butterfly and was always out and about. But these days I don’t get out much aside from going to work, the occasional PR event and my mom and son dates. I desperately need to find social balance. I’m aiming to spend time with friends, take my son out, and take myself on a solo date at least once a month. I’m ready to start dating again as well. I’ll go with the flow whenever I actually get back out there though.
As far as mom life is concerned, my son is a senior in high school and is planning to go away to college in the Fall. It’s just me and him. We are very close and spend a lot of time together. So our dynamic is going to change drastically when he goes away. This means that not only will I be spending less time with my son, I’ll be spending more time alone. So I’m trying to spend as much time with him as possible now, and I’m also trying to figure out what I will do with myself when he goes away. I know for sure that I’d like to travel more.
Balance is very important to me. I can’t live my best life or be my best self without it. So no matter how hard I have to try, I won’t stop until I achieve it. And then I’ll do whatever it takes to maintain it. I pray that this is the year that I get it right