I’m 35, alive and still fine y’all lol. My birthday was this past Saturday and it was amazing. I’ll tell you guys all about it in another post. But in the meantime, let me just take a minute to reflect on turning 35. I can only describe it as being bittersweet. 35 is not a typical milestone birthday. However, it’s one that can make you panic a bit. I know I did. For a few reasons.
I felt like I was getting old. Technically I’m now closer to 40 than I am to 30. Leaving my youth behind and approaching middle age. Or advanced maternal age. This actually doesn’t bother me in the slightest bit. I already have my son and honestly prefer not to have any more children. As far as leaving my youth behind is concerned, you are as young as you feel. I feel just fine for the most part. Not looking my age sure is a plus #blackdontcrack. I also enjoyed my “youth.” It was fun and I appreciate all of my experiences and lessons learned, and look forward to those to come.
I thought I’d be married by 35. I’m still not married. But I’m also not 100% sure if that’s something I want for myself anymore. So I’m good on that front. At least for now. If I change my mind there’s still time. You’re never too old for love. I’m not saying that I don’t want companionship at all. A sister is just focused on herself and her goals for now, if you know what I mean.
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I’m not exactly where I want to be financially. But I’m actively working on it. I work extremely hard everyday toward my goal of being my own boss. However, I have some debt that I need to finish paying off. That’s the biggest thing holding me back from this goal. After backsliding a bit this year, I’m going hard to eliminate that debt. So my #1 goal is financial freedom right now.
When I sat back and took a look at the reasons why turning 35 made me panic, I realized that I was just fine. I may not be exactly where I want to be. But I know exactly what I want, and have goals along with plans. I’m healthy & happy. Blessed with a handsome son who’s growing into an awesome young man (he took these photos by the way). I have supportive family and friends. Life is lit AF. So I look forward to this next chapter.
I’m going to continue to live everyday as if it’s my last.