I relax my hair. Yup, I said it. My preference. My prerogative. There always seems to be a battle on relaxed versus natural hair but in my opinion, it is just not that serious. For those who may not know, relaxing is the straightening of hair by chemical process where as natural hair is not using chemicals and wearing your hair with it’s natural texture. People say that going natural is better since the chemicals in the relaxers aren’t good for your hair and can cause breakage and damage. This may be true, however going natural can be just as bad for your hair if you do not know what you are doing.
I tried going natural and transitioning was the worse. I tried to transition with a sew in weave and it was so hard dealing with the two different textures. No matter what I did my hair was breaking off badly at the demarcation line, the line where the two textures met. I tried to balance protein and moisture, minimize heat, stay out of my head. Nope, didn’t work for me. My other option was to do a big chop ( chop off all of my relaxed hair) and I was not ready for that. No way. So I quit.
They also say that if you relax your hair you are trying to be “fake”and not embrace your natural roots. Well let me tell you, trust this is far from my case. I relax my hair because it is easier for me to manage. My hair texture is like 4B to the 10th power lol. Ok ok I am probably exaggerating but it is hell for me to deal with. I do not have the time nor energy to deal with it, and with my current cut it is definitely a no go. So I relax. So what. My preference. My prerogative.
This post is not to argue about what is better, relaxed or natural, but just to point out that I am relaxed and why. So please don’t bombard me with the “you should go natural because” comments. I will go down that road IF and WHEN I am ready. On that note…